How to Do What You Love, by Paul Graham. Simply full of gold. Favourite quote:
Prestige is especially dangerous to the ambitious. If you want to make ambitious people waste their time on errands, the way to do it is to bait the hook with prestige. That’s the recipe for getting people to give talks, write forewords, serve on committees, be department heads, and so on. It might be a good rule simply to avoid any prestigious task. If it didn’t suck, they wouldn’t have had to make it prestigious.
Narcissists Suck, the blog. The collected observations of somebody who has dealt extensively with a narcissist. Choice quotes:
It is terribly annoying to me when someone pretends to know my mind better than I do.
You want to shake up the world of the narcissist? Live outside his control; live outside his false reality.
Emotionally healthy people are realists. They are people who want to see reality, accept reality and live in reality.
Tricky People, a book by Australian psychologist Andrew Fuller. In it he describes many varieties of tricky behaviour (the Controllers, the Bullies and Tyrants, the Poor Communicators, etc), the impacts of these behaviours on you, and ways to deal. Contains loads of great advice, includes a chapter for if the tricky person is yourself, and is even worth reading cover-to-cover.
Back-stabbers and White-anters live by several rules:
- Rule 1: look good.
- Rule 2: avoid looking bad.
- Rule 3: if you can look good and have others look bad, even better.
How To Stay Sane, from the School of Life series, by Philippa Perry. Short, and describes four key ideas. It’s received some interesting and critical reviews, but that was after I bought it. One thing though, this is the book that convinced me to start writing a private diary.
Day One, the app I’m using as my diary. It has iOS and Mac versions that sync with one another. Much better than a plain text file, you can attach images, links, geotag, hashtags, do all the usual text formatting (with Markdown syntax 😀). It’s really well made and that’s probably why it got awarded App Store Best of 2012.